Category: blog
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“And to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands, just as we commanded you…” – 1 Thessalonians 4:11 The Spiritual Discipline of Minding My Business I beg your pardon, Paul. Mind your own business? Right there in the Bible? Apparently God knew…
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The Exhaustion That Coincides With Self-Awareness There was probably a time when I was considerably less exhausting to myself. I had a feeling. I reacted. I decided someone else was wrong. I told myself a story about what happened. I believed the story. And then I went about my day. Efficient. Not necessarily emotionally healthy.…
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The Fine Line Between Sacrifice and Self-Erasure I believe love requires sacrifice. I don’t particularly love that fact. I would prefer love to require cozy evenings, thoughtful gifts, excellent communication, and perhaps occasionally letting someone have the last mozzarella stick. Unfortunately, real love asks considerably more of us. Sometimes love means inconvenience. Compromise. Patience. Forgiveness.…
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If I have to stay quiet in order to keep the peace, it isn’t peace. Trust.Consistency.Honesty.Respect.Knowing that someone loves you even when you’re difficult.Knowing that disagreement doesn’t automatically mean abandonment. But I have also realized that there is something that can look like security…but is something else entirely. Nobody is arguing.Everything seems fine.Nobody is upset.Nobody…
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I took the week off of work to relax and spend some time with my son who is on fall break. I went to therapy this morning, and when I got home, my son had already left for basketball practice, and my husband had already gone to bed (he works nights). I was greeted by…
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We are slowly but surely encroaching upon New Year territory, and so many things in my life – physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually, and circumstantially – have changed for me. I want to make the last 2 1/2 months of 2026 really count. So I’ve compiled a list of ten things I want to accomplish before…
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I took a look around my house today and realized that my job has blessed me in ways I haven’t yet acknowledged publicly. To meet me in person is to also meet a woman taunted/plagued/irrationally irritated by minor inconveniences. A box or drawer that won’t pull out easily.Needing – but not having – a ponytail…
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Ten Tiny Decisions That Have Made My Life Better I love a dramatic life change. A fresh start. A new goal. A beautifully organized plan beginning on a Monday, preferably on the first day of the month, ideally with a brand-new notebook. Nothing says “I have completely changed as a human being” quite like purchasing…
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Ten Prayers He Answered in Unexpected Ways I’ve prayed a lot of prayers that came with suggested answers. I’m helpful like that. God, please fix this. And here’s how. God, please bring this person back. Preferably by Friday. God, please give me peace. But don’t change anything I currently have, love, want, depend on, or…
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I have spent a lot of my life just trying to “fit.” And trying to make sure there was a seat for me. In friendships.In relationships.Families.Conversations.People’s priorities.People’s lives. Sometimes – many times, in fact – I’ve tried to earn the seat by being useful. Sometimes by being agreeable. Sometimes by being funny. Helpful. Available. Understanding.…
