Category: blog
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There was a time when I narrated myself constantly. Clarified. Softened. Qualified. Over-explained. As if being understood required footnotes. So this post isn’t about shutting down or being closed off. It is just about recognizing that some things are just…true. Some things do not require approval to exist. I am not withholding. I am just…
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For a very long time, I thought being easygoing was a virtue. I thought accommodating meant mature. I thought absorbing discomfort meant loving well. What I didn’t realize was how often I prioritized others’ comfort over my own safety, clarity, and peace. I thought that’s what kindness required of me. Someone I love very much…
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None of the below will make it into a bio. They won’t come up in icebreaking exercises or “get to know me” klatches. There is no “fun fact” energy here. And yet this is the stuff that actually makes me me. Closing thoughts – these traits aren’t exciting. They don’t sparkle. They’re structural. They explain…
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I have proof. Actual documented evidence. Emails sent. Texts exchanged. Problems solved. Days survived. And yet, somehow, my brain decides, periodically, that none of it counts. How does that even happen? Competence and a sense of accomplishment don’t always announce themselves. Those things accumulate quietly by showing up, learning, and being resilient. These days I…
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I have been accused by more than one person of being “too” emotional. Kind of ironic, since my opinion is that those people maintained the emotional maturity of a pencil eraser. Nevertheless, I let it bother me for a long time. Not anymore. I have come to realize that while other people may believe that…
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Just because you made mistakes in the past – even the recent past – does not mean you are stuck there forever. Life is not a straight line. Neither is growth. We all carry chapters in the novel of our lives of which we feel shame – when our actions didn’t align with our values.…
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You know who actually breaks my heart in the Bible? Peter. Not when he cut the soldier’s ear off. Not when he walked on water and started sinking. Not when he was swearing he’d never leave. But the moment that gets me is when Jesus looked at him after the denial. When he failed publicly…Repeatedly…In…
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In trying to solidify and/or accept more of who I am, I was challenged to make a list of favorites. Obligatory lists incoming. Also, please consider this an invitation to share your own favorites. Maybe we have some common interests, or, alternatively, maybe we can learn something from each other. Movies: Honorable mentions – Liar,…
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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt This quote is easily said. Rolls off of the tongue. And it’s easy to understand. The implications that come with the quote are across-the-board accepted. It’s as if he knew what everyone was thinking. Ole Teddy became the youngest President, at age 42. So to me…
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As I’ve said before, sometimes I ask Chat GPT to give me guidance as to what I need to be writing. I did so moments ago, and I was met with the following: “10 Gentle Truths I’m Learning About Who I Am.” Yikes. As someone who tends to be more critical of myself than of…
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