Category: Family

  • One of the main things I’ve learned about my brain is that it has absolutely no concept of proportion. Real problems? We’ll get to those eventually. But random, mildly uncomfortable situations? Those are apparently five-alarm emergencies that require immediate mental attention. In all specificity… It’s like my brain doesn’t think I have enough actual problems,…

  • I need someone – anyone – to volunteer to delete my browser history in the event of my untimely death. If someone reviewed my Google searches right now, he/she would think that I’m either (1) writing a strange novel; or (2) not allowed unsupervised access to the internet. Either way, these are some things I…

  • One of the strange (but comical) things about growing into myself has been realizing how many things I used to believe – with absolute confidence – that turned out to be completely wrong. Not a little bit wrong. Not only technically incorrect. Just wildly, enthusiastically erroneous. See below. If there is one thing I have…

  • There’s a rock in my pocket. It isn’t special. It’s not smooth enough to be called a keepsake…not sharp enough to be called dangerous. It’s just…a rock. Ordinary in every way except for the fact that I carry it with me. I don’t remember when I picked it up, and if you ask me why…

  • At different points in life, we are assigned labels. Sometimes complimentary. Sometimes critical. Sometimes people label us based on conclusions they’ve drawn after watching a pattern in your life long enough to feel confident about it. And to be fair, sometimes those labels are accurate for a season. My therapist tells me that we are…

  • I do not know if I’ll share this or if this will become a write-and-save. At any rate, since I’ve been talking about growth, I thought I should draft a memorandum with a list of noticeable changes I have made so far so that said list is available to me the next time I feel…

  • I used to believe that my struggle to forgive certain people had to do with the depth of the hurt they caused me. And to be fair, the hurt was real. Some things that have happened in my life have genuinely wounded me. Words have been spoken over me that crushed my spirit. Trust has…

  • When people talk about change, they often imagine dramatic transformation. A big moment. A life overhaul. A completely new version of themselves. I’m just as guilty as the next person. “Okay, today, I’m going to declutter my entire house, walk 5 miles on the treadmill, write a novel, cook breakfast, lunch and dinner from scratch,…

  • Personal growth is often discussed like it’s a renovation project. Identify the flaw. Fix the behavior. Become the improved version of yourself. And some things in life really do change that way. But in my own journey, I’ve realized something different. Some traits aren’t habits. They’re wiring. I’m talking about tendencies that show up for…

  • Today I caught myself saying, in the middle of tearful prayer, “Lord, I don’t want to be here anymore.” There was no plan. But today has been one of those days when the weight of my circumstances has been unbearable. I said, “Lord, I’m going to do [the work] because You told me to. But…