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There are a few phrases modern culture has absolutely worn out. Know your worth. Match their energy. If they wanted to, they would. Cut off toxic people. And, perhaps my personal favorite: “I’m protecting my peace.” I see it everywhere. Someone doesn’t agree with you? Protect your peace. Someone asks you to take responsibility for…
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The Blessings and Curses of Being Unbothered Somewhere in this life exists a version of me that is unbothered. She’s peaceful. Confident. Emotionally regulated. She doesn’t overthink everything. She doesn’t take things personally. She doesn’t chase people. She doesn’t argue with strangers on the internet. She doesn’t feel compelled to explain herself to people who…
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The Difference Between Privacy and Secrecy I’ve been thinking about the difference between privacy and secrecy. Because for a long time, I think I treated them as practically interchangeable. If someone wasn’t telling me something, they were hiding something. If I wasn’t telling someone something, I was simply keeping it private. Convenient how that works,…
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The Difference Between Generosity and Enabling I like helping people. I especially like helping people I love. If someone needs groceries and I can afford to buy them, I want to. If someone needs gas to get to work, I want to help. If someone is struggling with an unexpected expense, I want to be…
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I am a fixer. Give me a problem and approximately twelve minutes, and I will have: A theory. A plan. A backup plan. A text drafted. Three possible explanations. A Google search history that would concern you. And, if necessary, a small committee assembled. For a long time, I thought this was one of my…
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An Open Letter to My Health Insurer Dear Blue Cross Blue Shield of California, First, I would like to begin with gratitude. Because apparently that’s necessary before I complain about anything in America. I have health insurance. Pretty decent health insurance, actually. I pay $30.74 per paycheck for a plan with no deductible, and my…
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We love talking about what can happen in a year. You can change your life in a year.Get healthy.Pay off debt.Start a business.Read the Bible.Build better habits.Heal.Travel.Fall in love.Become someone completely different. [Insert motivational quote here.] And it’s true. But there’s another side of a year nobody puts on a Pinterest board… Never underestimate the…
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“And to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands, just as we commanded you…” – 1 Thessalonians 4:11 The Spiritual Discipline of Minding My Business I beg your pardon, Paul. Mind your own business? Right there in the Bible? Apparently God knew…
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The Exhaustion That Coincides With Self-Awareness There was probably a time when I was considerably less exhausting to myself. I had a feeling. I reacted. I decided someone else was wrong. I told myself a story about what happened. I believed the story. And then I went about my day. Efficient. Not necessarily emotionally healthy.…
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The Fine Line Between Sacrifice and Self-Erasure I believe love requires sacrifice. I don’t particularly love that fact. I would prefer love to require cozy evenings, thoughtful gifts, excellent communication, and perhaps occasionally letting someone have the last mozzarella stick. Unfortunately, real love asks considerably more of us. Sometimes love means inconvenience. Compromise. Patience. Forgiveness.…
