Category: Family
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I want to try to explain something that I have only recently understood. Something I had to learn the hard way. What most people think they know about trauma, about abandonment, about narcissism, about people pleasing? It’s usually not correct. And I know that because I’ve worn every one of those badges – not because…
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I am not a person who has ever been allowed to not know how to handle things. I’m a person who – of her own choosing – grew up too fast, and then acted upon every urge to escape responsibilities I was not emotionally prepared to handle. I am not someone who has ever been…
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Like most people, I wear many hats. I am different things to different people. A wife.A mom.A paralegal.A daughter. For other people, I’m someone worse. The root of their trauma.Someone to discuss at the next coffee klatch.A deceiver.The cause of so much hurt. Those roles matter. They shape my days and carry responsibilities. They require…
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There’s a particular kind of helplessness that comes when someone you love leaves. Whether they walk away suddenly. Or slowly. Emotionally, physically, or relationally… The impact is the same. A pattern in my life – abandonment. And I really have no one to blame by myself. People choose distance for a reason. And as I…
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There are seasons where the things God is doing can be seen clearly. Doors open. Things fall into place. Answers come. The path is clear. And then there are other seasons when I can’t see a thing. Right now, nothing looks like it’s changing. The situation I am has stayed the same for 8 months.…
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Lately I’ve been working on ways to track the internal work I’ve been doing. When trying to lose weight, for example, it can be difficult to notice changes in your body, especially if they’re not directly related to the number on the scale. Statistics say it usually takes about 12 weeks to recognize differences in…
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If I am honest, I can trace most of my bad decisions back to one thing. Not recklessness, even though that is how it all ended.Not even rebellion, even though it looked like it. I was trying to satisfy a need I thought I had. I wanted to be chosen. Not just liked. Not just…
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Every Wednesday for the past couple of months, I have attended a small group Bible study called “Freedom.” And it is changing my life. There have been times in the last year or so when everything hard in my life felt like spiritual attacks. Every struggle.Every consequence.Every uncomfortable situation. “The enemy is attacking.” And sometimes…
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There was a time when I felt the need to explain everything. My choices.My intentions.My side of the story. If someone misunderstood me, I wanted to correct it.If someone judged me, I wanted to challenge it.If someone formed an opinion about me, I wanted to change it. Prove. Argue. Defend. Because I needed to be…
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I know God is the God of the beginning. The fresh start.The moment something new begins.Alpha. And I know He’s the God of the end. The breakthrough.The resolution.The place where everything finally makes sense.Omega. But He’s the God of the middle, too. It’s not as easy to define, because it’s bigger. It takes up more…
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